Audrey Jeannette Detmer
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Audrey Detmer
Audrey Detmer
Audrey Jeannette Detmer

July 9, 1925 – Feb. 5, 2013

Audrey Jeannette Detmer of Patterson passed away peacefully in her home of 27 years last Tuesday morning, Feb. 5, surrounded by love. She was 87 years old.

Mrs. Detmer was born in Alameda to parents Henry and Mazie Donaldson of Oakland. She was an exceptional high school athlete: an Olympic diving hopeful until injuring her back and a semi-pro women’s softball player. While driving one of the cars in the Army Motor Pool that shuttled the WWII officers, Audrey met the love of her life. She and Mel Detmer married Aug.25 1945 and were blissfully happy for their 65 years of marriage until her beloved husband passed away in December of 2009.

Mrs. Detmer was a devoted mother; and raising her sons, Mel Jr. and Rod, was her life’s passion. She was athletic, fun-loving and energetic with them as they were growing up and took them to spend every summer at their cherished family cabin in the Santa Cruz Mountains. There, her boys made lifetime memories in a Tom Sawyer setting; living in their swimsuits and playing from dawn to dusk. It continues to be one of her greatest gifts to all who experience it.

Mrs. Detmer was also a proficient seamstress and a talented artist who drew beautiful charcoal sketches. She was an exemplary member of the PTA when her boys were growing up, earning the prestigious Golden Oak Award. She was her boys’ Cub Scout leader, an active member of the Hillcrest Congregational Church in Pleasant Hill and later the Federated Church of Patterson. In 1969 she co-founded the Friends Outside Organization and was recognized by the Council of Churches of Contra Costa County for her volunteerism.

Mrs. Detmer was a loyal friend who kept friends for life, even as far back as her best friend Sue, from second-grade. She adored her children, her grandchildren and her great-grandchildren and took pride and unending interest in all they did and every accomplishment. She is no doubt filling her beloved “Boppy” in on all they are doing; so anxious she was to see him again.

Mrs. Detmer is survived by her sons, Mel Detmer Jr. and his wife, Susan of Chico, Rod Detmer and wife, Veeve of Clayton and son of her heart, Tom Ferrera and wife, Pam of Danville; eight grandchildren Matt, Amanda, Julie, Mark, Kenny, Joey, Audrey and Seetah and six great-grandchildren, Alden, Mila, Jake, Malibu, Valentina and Logan. Her brother, Harris Donaldson, preceded her in death.

A Memorial Service will be conducted at the Federated Methodist-Presbyterian Church in Patterson at a later date. Memorial contributions in Mrs. Detmer’s name may be sent to Federated Church of Patterson, 45 S. El Circulo, Patterson, Ca. 95363.

Hillview Funeral Chapel, 450 W. Las Palmas Ave., Patterson is handling the arrangements.

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